Thinking about bringing some third party fun into the bedroom with your SO? They are called toys for a reason, after all.
Whether you just started seeing someone new, or have been with your boo for a few, proposing the idea of using sex toys with (or to) someone may seem a little intimidating at first.
Rest assured, you’re not the only one out there experiencing these naughty nerves. The next time you’re thinking about it, make a point to break outside of your comfort zone and try something new - because you never know what exciting things you may discover. So, start with these helpful tips and dive right in.
Talk the Talk
We already know that open communication is key to any partner/relationship. You may feel a little anxious to bring the idea up to your lover, but as far you know, he/she may be having the same thoughts! If you don’t know where to start, consider mutual masturbation the next time you’re in the bedroom; mention how “that was amazing, but you know what I think what could make it even better for me..”
If slipping in the idea through dirty talk seems more natural, try it. If you prefer just an open conversation, don’t be afraid of the dialogue. If the end result means more pleasure for you, well, it’ll be worth it. 😉
Shopping together could be a great way to work toys into your relationship. Start things off with something like a c-ring, or a model that works for clitoral stimulation during penetration. If your partner still feels pretty open-minded after giving these a try, work your way up to a bigger vibrator or dildo.
Chari, our most compact toy, is the perfect introduction to the world of rhythms.
Return the Favor
Trying something new is a not only a great way to open up with your partner, but can act as an open door to even more possibilities. Ask your SO if there is something in the bedroom he/she wants to try but hasn’t brought up yet -- showing your own willingness to listen may help him/her feel 1) more into the toy suggestion and 2) comfortable with suggesting new ideas.
You both talk. You both try something new. You both get what you want. Win-Win-Win.
The main thing to keep in mind is that toys are just that, toys. They’re meant to be fun and to be enjoyed. Don’t feel as if you’re asking too much by wanting to spice things up! And if your partner isn’t down for your desires.. Well, that’s what you still have the toys for. 😏
Inspired by our friends over at What’s In Your Box?
Check out their blog on the topic here.
ICYMI lovers - May is National Masturbation Month. That’s right. A whole month dedicated to recognizing the DIY deed. We hope you’ve been keeping plenty busy in celebration. 😉 We already know that masturbating has its perks. But how much do we really know about the benefits it offers?