Like a Fine Wine | How Sex Gets Better with Age

Like a Fine Wine | How Sex Gets Better with Age

March 28, 2019

No, you can't stay young forever. At least not yet.

But that is definitely not a bad thing since - according to several scientific sources - your sex life is predicted to only get better as you get older.

“20-year-olds are having plenty of sex, but the 40-year-olds are actually enjoying it,” a spokesperson from dating site Illicit Encounters said. 

And there's several reasons to back why this is.

A study reported on Glamour saw a lower amount of cardiovascular problems in older men who who were sexually active vs. those who were not; as well as a lower chance of high blood pressure in women who were happy with their sex lives vs. those who were not.

 

"The majority of people between ages 40 and 59 are more sexually adventurous than they used to be and found their last sexual encounter very pleasurable," according to a survey by Trojan and the Sex Information and Education Council of Canada. (Glamour)

 

Not surprisingly, confidence is a main key here. With time comes acceptance - meaning more women are confident in their once insecure flaws and men are less worried about their performance.

According to couples’ counselor, Tara Saglio, “By the time they’re older, people have usually come to terms with many of their insecurities about body image." (Bustle)

Leaving the younger age of experimentation helps older men and women realize and be sure in what they like and what they don't.

And with that comes an increase in likeliness of climax for women. A study conducted by OkCupid found that women in their early 20s had about a 40% chance of having difficulty reaching orgasm, while women in their 40s had about a 20%.

 

 

So with our physical bodies probably not peaking at 40 like they did at 20, what is the secret to better sex here? Is it really just all in our heads? Karley Sciortino, author of the Slutever blog, wrote an opinion piece for Vogue regarding just that question.

She consulted her friend and lingerie designer, Maayan Zilberman, who eloquently stated from her personal experience:

"I think it’s about reaching a point in your life—be it in your career, in your family, or whatever it is you have stress about—where you feel you’ve accomplished something. Because pleasure all comes down to being relaxed and feeling equal with whoever you’re having sex with, man or woman. I think that level of serenity in life is what allows for better sex.”

So maybe a big part of this life phase is mentality and comes down to happiness. Love yourself first, love someone else, love your sex life together.




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